When I think about great fathers, I immediately pause and give thanks to God because I get to experience the privilege of raising my own sons with the greatest father I know, my husband. Watching him with my sons is one of the most beautiful things in my life wherein I see God’s glory and love displayed. My husband’s relentless devotion for our children and myself never ceases to awe me. Too often I take him for granted, and I want to take this opportunity to honor the truly amazing father and man that he is.
The world is a broken place full of broken people. We all struggle to fight for joy and find peace. Some people relentlessly work to fix wounded relationships and some people chose to walk away. Some strive for acceptance while others prefer to pride themselves in being an island, never needing anything from anyone. Some let fear and resentment turn into driving hatred and some are swallowed up by grief. My point is, simply, that we all experience pain, rejection, and tragedy. This is a fact and we are all a desperate people who are nothing without redemption from God.
Sadly, too many fathers allow past wounds, pride, fear, and a history of an absent father to control their lives and heavily influence their relationships with their own children. As I read through other stories on this site, this was a recurring theme in the stories people were sharing. BUT, what I loved was that the stories were also full of men who had surrendered those sins and fears to Jesus and allowed the chains to be broken. They are now living their lives in freedom and giving their children a picture of exactly what that looks like in a man’s life. Praise God!
By the grace of God, my husband is one of those men. He has seen his fair share of struggles and pains. He faces circumstances that aren’t ideal and does so with integrity. He does not allow circumstances to define or direct him. He may not have had the best example from his father, but that has never determined the type of father that he is. He is living proof that none of us are bound to our past. Because of Jesus, we get to live every moment knowing that we are fully loved, more than we can fathom, and that love should spill out to others. This is how my husband lives; the type of father that he is. He accepts that he is fully loved by the Father and allows that to dictate and direct him- nothing else.
He is constantly looking for ways to love us well. He thinks of our boys constantly and communicates that to them. He is what I call a “hands-on” father. He comes home from work and immediately gives his time, energy, and love to the boys for the time that he is with them. He plays with them and tells them the ways he is proud of them and that he loves them. He is involved in every area of parenting. As a resident physician, he works very hard and long hours, but that has never kept him from reserving special time just for them. He has a servant’s heart and puts his needs or wants after all of ours.
While celebrating and honoring him, I want to say to other amazing fathers out there. I see you, too. I see you pour yourself into your children. I see the sacrifices you make. I see your efforts and when you are vulnerable. I see you teaching your children what love is and what it means to be a man of God. Take encouragement that your children see it too. They may not know how to articulate their thanks, but someday they will. Keep on giving your love away. It is what we are called to do through Jesus. Your children need you and love you. They are crazy about you. For those of your struggling, be encouraged that generational sin can end with you. Jesus heals and redeems. This is the Gospel. Your family will be drawn to the love they see displayed in you. There is nothing out of His reach.