When I was in high school, we had bizarre Thanksgiving celebrations at my house, though I didn’t realize it at the time. They weren’t bizarre because we ate outlandish food or participated in strange rituals or just pretended the holiday didn’t exist. What I mean is that Thanksgiving was bizarre because of who we celebrated it with.
My parents split up when I was in middle school, and about a year later my mom started dating the man that I still call my stepdad today. My parents remained in the same town, and even though we lived with Mom, Dad came and picked us up to take us to school each morning. When Brian (my stepdad) entered the picture, I expected things to get tense or difficult because of everything I’d ever heard about stepfamilies. I also expected that because of my own insecurity; I figured one or both of them would be jealous and then things might get ugly.
Instead, the exact...
by Brian Goslee
As sons of God, we can enjoy a great relationship with our heavenly Father and learn some things that we can transfer to our roles as dads.
God extends unconditional love and complete forgiveness to us. We are grateful for His mercy, grace, and forgiveness of our sins. God does not like it when we sin, because it takes us away from Him; it moves us in the wrong direction. But if we change direction and ask forgiveness, He will forgive us.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9 ESV)
In a similar way, our own sons and daughters benefit from experiencing our unconditional love and our forgiveness. Jesus taught us to pray, "forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us" (Matthew 6:12 NLT). Sometimes, it is our kids who sin against us and we need to show forgiveness, rather than create a spirit of condemnation. Yes, we need to teach and to provide...
One thing we all enjoy receiving is encouragement. Encouragement is defined as, “the action of giving someone support, confidence, or hope.”
Think about your favorite teacher, your favorite coach, or your favorite boss. Chances are, they were very good at encouraging you. Great teachers, coaches, and bosses motivate us to believe that we have what it takes to achieve our goals. We all love to know that someone believes in us, right?...Our kids love that too!
God is a Father that believes in us. He believes we have what it takes because He made us in His image. But we also need to know that we don’t have what it takes apart from a relationship with Him. We have what it takes because of what we were born with, combined with our beliefs, actions, choices and our faith and reliance on God.
Our sons and daughters want and need the approval of their dads. Whether it is through words, written notes, facial expressions, or hugs,...
Some days it feels like we just "have to." We have to get up for work. We have to have that difficult conversation with someone. We have to come home and fix dinner. We have to go to that evening meeting or coach that ball game.
If we are honest, sometimes we think we have to when it comes to parenting. I have to be present for my children instead of doing what I want to do. I have to sacrifice my time for my children. I have to provide. I have to discipline my child and stand up for what is right (certainly true at times!).
The truth of the matter is that God gave us the role of fathers; the role of coach; the role of being a son of God, made in His image.
Guys, we "GET TO" be dads!
When we change our perspective to one of gratitude to God for our role as dads, we realize that we get to spend time with our kids. We get to coach ball games. We get to model leading at church. We get to influence positively in the workplace. And we get to provide. Not only to we get to...